Although I am a divorce attorney and not a psychologist, I work on a daily basis with clients who are divorcing. Some clients aren’t quite sure if they want to divorce, but they want to discuss their legal options before they make any decision. Other clients are completely sure they want to divorce, and need an attorney’s help with the process. Some clients do not want a divorce at all, but their spouse has filed for divorce, and they seek my legal guidance with the process.
If you are not sure if you truly want a divorce, ask yourself if you have tried everything possible to save your marriage. If you are willing to work towards a better marriage, and your spouse is willing to put in the work too, the odds are good that the marriage can be saved. You should also consider how the divorce will affect the entire family, especially the kids, but also your parents and your siblings. Divorce can affect everyone in an extended family.
You should also consider what your life will be like without being married to your spouse. You need to think about the fact that you will be alone, and that there’s a chance that your life could actually become worse. Although you shouldn’t stay in a miserable marriage just for money, there’s a good chance that you will be worse off financially after a divorce. It’s easy to fantasize about a great future once your spouse is gone, but is that realistic?
If it’s possible that your marriage can be saved, do not hastily file for divorce. Instead, attempt to work things out. If, however, the marriage cannot be saved, hire an experienced Florida divorce attorney to help you receive the assets, alimony, child support, and child custody rights to which you are entitled under Florida law.